A while back I asked many of my friends, family & random strangers if they could help me with answering some questions. The topic- Elopements!

What exactly is an elopement?

Even though I stated to everyone that there were no wrong answers, the responses I received were very interesting! There is unfortunately a lot of stigma and negative connotation concerning elopements. I am hopeful we at Seeking Venture can help clarify a bit more about what this topic is all about and possibly help with planning your own elopement down the line!

Myths and Maybes:

What are some of your first thoughts when you hear a couple is ‘eloping’? What do you think it means to elope?

Here on some of the most popular responses I received:

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Getting hitched or marrying on a whim. False.

When we think of “getting hitched,” images of a spur-of-the-moment trip to Vegas, quick vows by an Elvis impersonator, and a whirlwind ceremony often come to mind. However, this is not what eloping typically involves. While elopements can be planned more swiftly than traditional weddings, they are not synonymous with impulsive decisions. Many elopements involve months of careful planning to ensure every detail is just right. So, be cautious with the term “getting hitched”—it doesn’t accurately represent the thoughtful and deliberate nature of most elopements.

Elopements are a huge secret. Maybe.

The notion that elopements must be shrouded in secrecy is a misconception. Whether or not a couple chooses to keep their elopement plans private is entirely up to them. Some couples announce their elopement during the planning stages, while others might choose to share the news afterward. The decision to keep their plans confidential or make them public is a personal choice, and it varies from couple to couple. Elopements can be as open or private as the couple desires!

The bride is pregnant or someone’s green card is about to expire! False.

It’s a common misconception to assume that elopements are primarily driven by urgent circumstances like a pending pregnancy or an expiring visa. While these situations may prompt some to marry quickly, they are not representative of the reasons behind most elopements. Elopements are often carefully planned and thoughtfully considered, reflecting a couple’s desire for an intimate and personal celebration. When couples marry hastily due to pressing issues, that’s where the term “getting hitched” might apply, but it doesn’t accurately describe the intentional and meaningful nature of most elopements.

A private intimate ceremony. True!

Elopements are often characterized by their privacy and intimacy. Whether it’s just the bride and groom or a small gathering of close friends and family, elopements are typically much smaller than traditional weddings. We consider a ceremony with 10 guests or fewer to be an elopement. Up to 20 guests could be considered a ‘micro’ or intimate wedding. If the guest count is between 30 and 80, it’s usually considered a small wedding. Celebrations with over 80 guests are generally regarded as traditional weddings. The smaller scale of elopements allows for a more personal and meaningful experience, focusing on the couple’s special day without the extensive logistics of a larger event.

The couple is broke or cheap. False.

Elopements can accommodate couples with any budget, and while they often save money compared to traditional weddings, they don’t equate to being “cheap.” The reduced costs come from needing fewer vendors and not having to cater to a large number of guests. However, this doesn’t mean you can’t have a spectacular and high-value elopement. Many couples choose unique destinations and invest in memorable experiences, including travel, accommodations, attire, and quality vendors. Although the cost may not include a large venue, it can still amount to thousands of dollars. Elopements allow you to allocate your budget according to your preferences, letting you focus on what truly matters to you without compromising on quality.

They aren’t planners. Maybe!

While some couples might have a clear vision for their elopement, others may feel unsure about where to start. That’s where we come in. Having an elopement guide can alleviate much of the stress and planning involved. Although couples still have full control over their choices, we provide valuable assistance with recommendations for vendors, locations, and timelines. We invest countless hours scouting stunning locations so that you don’t have to. Our goal is to support you throughout the process, ensuring that your elopement is as seamless and enjoyable as possible while still reflecting your unique preferences.

Elopement Defined

So, what is the ‘correct’ definition of elopement? One of my favorite descriptions is “two people getting married the way they want to.” This captures the essence of elopement perfectly! While planning an elopement might take months, it often involves less stress compared to organizing a large traditional wedding. An elopement is all about two people creating their ideal day, whether it’s with a small group of friends and family or just the two of them. We typically define elopements as having 10 guests or fewer, though different photographers may have their own criteria.

It’s not for everyone!

Eloping isn’t the right choice for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. Some people envision a grand, traditional wedding, and there’s nothing wrong with that! The essence of eloping is about prioritizing what you and your partner want for your special day, rather than focusing on external expectations. It’s about creating a celebration that reflects your unique relationship and how you wish to remember it. Whether you choose an intimate elopement or a larger traditional wedding, the most important thing is that the day feels true to you.

But next time the topic of a couple eloping comes up, maybe you can help take out some of the confusion and educate someone else! There are many reasons why couple’s are now choosing to elope.

If you are thinking of eloping, maybe consider gorgeous Hawaii or Big Sur as your destination!

Ready to start planning your own elopement?